Family unity

Honestly, family unity today in this modern world has been under a threat. The quest for financial freedom from parents has always been a big issue in most modern homes. Self actualisation and self worth has taken the place of family unity. Parents no longer care much about the amount of quality time spent with the children. We pursue modernity and value the things of the world more than we value families issues and values. We think the children needs only the money to meet up with their ever demanding needs and we neglect their most pressing needs which is spending more time with their families in other inculcate spiritual values into them. The family unit truly is the mercy of the modern world.

The Wedding Ring as a covenant sign and not The worlds most Smallest Handcuff.

I have always been sad when I hear people say the wedding ring is the worlds most smallest handcuff ever made. Little reason why our homes and marriages are in shambles. We are growing up in the mentality that marriages are not working as a result of our bad and myopic vision of about marriage and the significance of the wedding ring.
The ring that is given is a sign of the love and fidelity of the one who gives it. Wearing a wedding ring is not a childs play. Its not a jewellery. I’ve always thought that wearing a wedding ring was a sign of the commitment you are making to your spouse and to your marriage.
Not to pretend that it all depends on you – because it’s about a relationship and a vocation, and about God’s blessing on that relationship. But to see the wearing of the ring as a constant sign of your own re-dedication and re-commitment to this relationship, and to make this continuing acknowledgement of
your marital commitment public by wearing a ring. The ring becomes, as it were, a public profession of your marriage and what it continues to mean to you. This is why in those
films (cf. Bruce Willis in the first scene of Unbreakable), when a husband meets a stranger on a train and starts plotting how he might hook up with her, he quietly slips his wedding ring off and puts it in his pocket.
But I heard the words of the wedding rite as if for the first time, and this is absolutely not what the wearing of the ring signifies. Here they are:
Take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
So the ring that is given is a sign of the love and fidelity of the one who gives it. The ring that you wear, that was placed on your finger by your spouse on your wedding day, does not
represent your commitment to your marriage, your love for your spouse, your faithfulness to this relationship and to the vocation God has called you into, etc. It represents the commitment, love and faithfulness of your spouse to you.
The ring is not there, first of all, as a sign of your continuing commitment to this person (although of course it can come to mean that as well). It’s an ongoing reminder of the promise that the other person has made to you. It’s a sign of the covenant that your
spouse has made with you, and that God has sealed, and that you have freely embraced and entered into. The same covenant that you have also made with your spouse.
I know this is obvious – I’m ashamed to say that I’d just never thought of it before. It changes things.
Many people have given wedding sermons about looking down at the
ring on your finger and choosing to live your marriage and love your spouse. It’s all true, in one sense. But the symbolism of the ring is not, ultimately, about your own efforts or
decisions or commitments, it’s a reminder of the promise that another has made to you, and of the promise that God has made to you both.
I know that life, and marriage, are not always tidy or easy, but I think there is a truth worth pondering here.

Do contradict me, and write in the comments what your wedding ring has meant to you over the years!

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Happy Birthday My Joy

Wishing you a very memorable birthday. You have always been a blessing to many. So today as we gather to celebrate you, we also gather to celebrate your love for all. To pray to God almighty to always keep, bless, prosper and honour you all the days of your life. This is just but a new beginning in the vistas of hope that you have in God. As you have started climbing the mountain of success, we will definitely find you at the peak by this time next year according to the season of life. I bless you today My Peace, My Joy. It is my utmost desire that God through today will bless you beyond measures, exceedingly above all that you will ever think of, IJN, Amen. Happy birthday my Love.

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About CaringHeart

394215_342262422470580_1352313246_nDear Friends, marriage can be the most rewarding experience in life. Sharing your life with someone on such an intimate level can bring true joy to your life. On the other hand marriage can be difficult and bring headache and pain to your life. Many married COUPLES are absolutely miserable and want to get out as soon as possible. If you are one of those, then this BLOG is for you. This is were you learn the secrete of enjoying a happy marriage relationship with your spouse.
Whether you are on the brink of divorce or just having some struggles this will help you. If you are divorced and want to get back together there is hope for you. It is not the end if you truly want to be happy. About.

A Tale of Two Drowning Kids

I thank God that the ocean could not suck Jedd below the surface. Provision was made and rescue secured. But it simply isn’t right that just because Jedd lives in America and can access desperately-needed resources, he can read. And Sammy still can’t.

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The waters first lapped at my son’s feet when he was five years-old. I pulled our “twins” (by adoption – they are six weeks apart) from pre-school mid-year when we traveled to Kenya to adopt my daughter, never imagining they would miss the entire second semester. As days melted into weeks, I imposed structure on our nomad existence with “home-school.” One of the boys picked up shapes as easily as bending over to pick up sticks. The other stumbled on simple twigs; I was puzzled. We talked about a triangle on a flash card, then I flipped it over and face up again. He couldn’t remember the name of the shape, although we tried over and over. I didn’t understand this strange current that tugged at Jedd’s mind, but I knew something wasn’t right.

Months later, home in the US, his kindergarten teacher, a literacy teacher, and my husband and I put our heads…

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A Secret Garden That Changed My Life (In Vietnam)

STORIES FROM VIETNAM. Everyone of us has a secret garden that changed our lives

Colleen Briggs Art & Writing

Steamboat Springs riverWe explore a silky summer evening, airbrushed with cool mountain air and golden sinking light. Newly arrived in Steamboat Springs, we wander west. The river is gift enough, flowing like laughter between us. One of those rare series of moments when you feel so alive, so present to where you are, so thankful to love the people you are with. Our four kids skip rocks and play “Pooh Sticks” on a weathered wood bridge. Then we stumble on a gate hidden in a crook of the path. “Yampa Valley Botanic Park,” a humble sign declares. On the other side, brilliant colors beckon from deepening shadows. One of us lifts the latch and the gate creaks open. Just like that, we freely step into an elaborate secret garden. Paths laced with thriving green and flower bursts lure us deeper, all the more enchanting for being so unexpected.

I remember stumbling upon…

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Family unity

Honestly, family unity today in this modern world has been under a threat. The quest for financial freedom from parents has always been a big issue in most modern homes. Self actualisation and self worth has taken the place of family unity. Parents no longer care much about the amount of quality time spent with the children. We pursue modernity and value the things of the world more than we value families issues and values. We think the children needs only the money to meet up with their ever demanding needs and we neglect their most pressing needs which is spending more time with their families in other inculcate spiritual values into them. The family unit truly is the mercy of the modern world.

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WOMEN AND THE ISSUES OF CHANGING NAMES IN MARRIAGE: Does this truly give them a true identity of who they are?

Marriage and Me

Marriage and Me

The issue of changing family names for a woman in marriage has often become an issue. Some women argue that it completely wipes out their true identity as nothing about their own family names (father) is remembered anymore. Instead they are forced by marriage to bear their husbands family name which in turn deny them of their true identity as people refuse to recognise which family they truly come from.
” I really have a problem with
women having to change their names for marriage. Suddenly they are no longer attached to their own “tribe” and have to create a new identity with a foreign name. It forces women to
erase their whole past when they marry and start over with their husband’s name as though they
were always a part of that family. My current name is Nwachukwu and I’ve had people try to establish what “Nwachukwun” I’m from and when I tell them that women tend to “collect” names, they are offended. I was offended that they didn’t ask
my maiden name to know who I really am- says Sandra.

And the question I ask now to the woman folk is: have this affected you more as an individual? And if you will have way, do you think there is need for a change corning this?

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DO YOU THINK THAT MARRIAGE AS A SOCIAL COMMITMENT DEVICE STILL WORKS?

The Institution of marriage

The Institution of marriage

>Marriage is a complicated issue;
there’s the religious influence, the societal expectations, the financial agreements, the legal aspects and the government involvement. Each
one of these areas has their own rules attached to the institution and they don’t always support each other.
The religious influence is as varied as there are religions but tend to dictate how a husband and wife should behave. These ideas had their
beginnings centuries ago and don’t tend to get altered. They can be archaic and out of touch with current societal beliefs and cause conflicts
when seen in that light. Of course cultural expectations are also incredibly varied as well
with a no one fits all molds.
As I’ve said before, marriage is also a financial contract that is probably more important than any other aspect of taking vows and is the cause
of more divorces than infidelity. Infidelity may be the excuse but the problems usually start with money issues. This is the most ignored and the most entitled un-discussed area of marriage that somehow gets tangled with love and feeling for each other inevitably shutting the discussion
down.
So my summation is that no, I don’t think the institution of marriage as a social commitment device works anymore. People are very capable of
making choices for themselves. Choosing to have a strong commitment to another person doesn’t have to include any other institution. What do you think?

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ARE YOU IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?

Are You in an Abusive Relationship?
Many abusers and victims don’t realize they are in an abusive situation. They might even hide it from themselves by rationalizing, minimizing or denying their experience.
Ask yourself:
Are you afraid of your partner?
Has your partner ever hit, slapped, choked or pushed you?
Is your partner very good to you most of the time but sometimes very cruel or scary?
Are you sure you’re not being abused because you fight back or you feel you deserve what you get?
Are you afraid to ask for help because you are afraid no one will understand?
If you answered yes, it’s time to seek help for you and your children.
 
What Children Learn When a Parent is Abusive
Nothing is safe
Women have no rights; it is okay for men to control them.
Violence is an acceptable way to solve problems.
Violence at home is normal.

Intimidation is a good way to get what you want.

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