I was often neglected because my husband would not spend time with me. YOUR MARRIAGE IS YOUR FIRST MINISTRY 2

Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:4 NKJV

Kamila Scott.
I believe we can all agree that marriage takes a lot of our time, a lot of work and a great deal of sacrifice. But how many of us are willing to do the necessary things to keep our marriage healthy? It’s amazing how we can go the extra
mile during our dating season. Ladies, we make sure we are always “dolled up” when he’s around. We go the distance to look our very best for him, nothing out of place.

Gentlemen, you go over and beyond to
romance her with flowers, dinner, dates, gifts, vacations, etc. But after “I Do”a lazy spirit kicks in. What happen? Are we no longer interested in doing the things that will keep our marriages fresh, exciting and spicy?
Sacrifice means to “give up” and marriage will require you to “give up” something often. The Word of God reminds us in Philippians 2:4, in a
paraphrase not to be selfish. You cannot be selfish and make a sacrifice at the same time. You have to choose one or the other. Which one will benefit your marriage the most, being
selfish or making sacrifices?
Our marriage suffered a lot because sacrifices were not being made. I was often neglected because my husband would not spend time with me. That was a major issue in our marriage. His family and friends always came
before me. When I didn’t feel loved by him, my response was to withhold the one thing I know he enjoyed, needed and wanted…sex. Were we both wrong? Yes! Neither one of our needs
were being met and this was a never ending cycle in our home. I was screaming for his attention and he was screaming for love- making. Funny thing is we used to do things together often while dating but we struggled
heavily during marriage. Now, we have an understanding that every other weekend we will commit to spending time together. What changed? Our marriage went through the
turmoil of infidelity and then a light bulb finally came on. The grass really isn’t greener on the other side. You honestly have to take and make time to keep your own lawn nurtured. That’s it! If you can find time to commit adultery, you can most certainly use
that same time to date your spouse and avoid the high cost that adultery brings to the marriage and home.

My husband works from 3pm to 1am, 5 days a week. He is on his feet literally the entire 10 hour shift; warehouse work. When he comes home, I commit to making home as peaceful as possible and also making sure his needs are met. When he arrives home, his bath water is ready and his dinner is warmed. So mornings (2am) he wants to talk. As his wife, I have to
give him that time. We all know most men do not like to talk so when the opportunity presents itself, we must make ourselves available. These are just some of the things I failed to do earlier in our marriage, not because I couldn’t but because for me sleep
was more important. I want to be that wise woman that Proverbs 14:1 speaks of, “A wise woman strengthens her family, but a foolish woman destroys hers by what she does.” (NCV)
Hebrews 13:16 (NLT) tells us, “And don’t forget to do good and to share with those in need.

These are the sacrifices that please God.” Ministry starts at home. How can we serve others in our community, in our churches, on our jobs with excellence yet our very home is
being neglected? We must make time for those who are closest to us and God has so graciously blessed us with. God gifted us with family. What better way to say thank you to Him by treating those gifts like we appreciate
Marriage was never promised to be easy. But every sacrifice made is definitely worth it. Your marriage will only work if you put in the work. Without God, His Word, prayer,
commitment, sacrifice, unconditional love, intimacy (more than just sex), just to name a few, there is no way to keep our marriages successful & healthy.

Reasons Why Trash Talking Your Spouse Is Bad For Your Marriage

Melissa Chapman says;
Trash talking our spouse is bad.

Here is what she said;
When I first got married I had a lot of fire in my belly. And I will even admit that I was immature. I had no real
understanding of what being married entailed. I still thought of myself as an individual and not as a partner in both good and bad with this person who I now called my husband. I mean rationally I knew once married we were inextricably linked to one another but emotionally I was still very much
wrapped up in my own stuff and in my own space.

In those early years of marriage we fought a lot. And, despite cringing as I write this, I remember arguing with my husband in public, in front of our family and friends. And, yes, I even remember cavalierly throwing out my complaints about him, his flaws and just my general displeasure with certain of his
behaviors — without ever considering the repercussions of doing so. I naively assumed I should be able to voice my
feelings when and where I chose and that when I insulted him or trash talked him — I was just doing what so many
wives had done before me — lamenting my woe-is-me-my- husband-is-a-blockhead tales. Of course my husband
NEVER returned the favor. He never aired any of his grievances about me — and believe me he had many — when
we were in the company of others. It took me several months to finally get that my behavior was not empowering but actually incredibly detrimental to this person who was now known to others as my better half, and each time I put him down and belittled him, I was also trash talking myself.

I remember being out with a bunch of other couples and sitting there and listening to one of the women full on ranting about how inept her husband was when it came to managing
their finances. As she essentially raked him over the coals for all of us to witness, I was humiliated. Not for this poor man, but for my own husband who I just then realized had at
times gotten the same treatment from me. It was so demeaning it made me physically ache for the pain I’d caused
him. I’m not sure what my endgame ever was, in trash talking my husband — other than for those few brief moments it was a way for me to selfishly let out pent up resentment I’d felt about him and perhaps I thought my audience would side with me and reassure me that, yes, marriage sucked, husbands suck and I was right. Thinking back on it, and especially on the specific situation of that woman reaming out her husband, all I remember was how horrified and uncomfortable it made me feel — for him and for her. The one question that kept running through my mind
was, “why are you telling us all this private stuff that should be reserved for you and your husband to work out in the privacy of your own home?”
And this is how I felt last night watching a reality show, as one of the women, after being under the influence of some major red wine truth serum, let her lips flap quite loosely
about how inept and immature her husband was. All I could think was, “I wish she would just excuse herself and go to sleep. I wish she would stop talking because those words
once out can never be taken back, and if I had two reasons for her as to why trash talking her man was a bad idea these are the things I would tell her:”

1. Anything you say can and will be used against you. Your husband will store all these negative comments and will dredge them up every chance he gets. He will hold a grudge against you in regards to the comments, and they will forever be a part of your martial tapestry.
2. Trash talking the man you live with, the one you have to sleep with, share a bed with, the one who takes out the
garbage, who snakes the sewer drain, who slays the bugs and
gets up in the middle of the night to check the children out — He is not going to be too keen on doing any of these things once he realizes that you
have chosen to harp on the stuff he doesn’t do as opposed to appreciating the stuff he DOES DO. In other words, get ready to start slaying your own bugs and hauling out your own garbage for a while. In other words don’t shit where you eat.


General Overseer Caught Pants Down With Wife Of A Military Man And Another Woman.
The General Overseer of Maximum Deliverance Church,Pastor John Simon was recently caught in the act of having intimate affairs with the wife of
a top military officer that worships in his Church.
When caught, Pastor John Simon did not only had the wife of the officer in his possession but was engaging in twosome sex act with two women.
Bubble burst recently when the top military brass who has been suspecting the amorous act between his wife and the randy Pastor laid a siege for him at their usual love nest.
He detailed some security agents to keep watch at the venue. True to type,on the day of the incident, they allowed the duo to fully get into the
act before bursting through the door and caught them red handed.
They were given the beating of their life and photographed as shown in this picture. The Pastor pleaded for the issue to be settled amicably Its yet to be known how the issue would be resolved . Chai! There is God ooo Pastor!
Posted by Nta News…

Force Marriage and The Slavery of The girl child… 21st century slave trade.

What is happening to our world?
Stupid Uncles with idiotic brains.

Girl, 14, intercepted at Sydney
airport en route to Lebanon for
arranged marriage.

Police investigating case as Scott Morrison calls forced marriages an ‘assault on Australian values’
The 14-year-old girl and her uncle were held for questioning and prevented from leaving the country.
Police are investigating the case of a 14-year-old girl intercepted by authorities at Sydney airport destined for an arranged wedding in Lebanon.

Customs and federal police stopped the teenager and her uncle at the airport on Friday after they learned she was being taken overseas to be married.
Immigration minister Scott Morrison said forced marriages are an “assault on Australian values”.
“Where children are involved [arranged marriage] is an
abomination,” he said.
“I can confirm that an adult male and a female minor were prevented from boarding a flight at Sydney international airport. The prevention from boarding was not counter-
terror related.” The girl and her uncle were released after hours of
questioning but not allowed to leave the country, a spokeswoman for Morrison said.
Australian Federal Police said they were “making further inquiries” into the case and it was “not appropriate to
comment further”.
Authorities have been on high alert for cases of arranged marriages in the wake of an Islamic State (Isis) social media campaign to recruit young brides to wed terrorists.
There is no suggestion this incident was Isis-related.
The New South Wales minister for women, Pru Goward, told the ABC the interception sent a warning to any families considering forcing girls into underage marriages.
“Whether the arrangement in their mind is religious or cultural, the law of Australia says it’s illegal and they need
to accept and abide by that,” she said.
In 2013, the Australian government passed legal amendments making it a criminal offence to coerce, threaten or deceive someone into marriage. The crime is punishable by up to seven years in jail.
According to a recent Plan International Australia report,
child marriages are still affecting hundreds of Australians, with the National Children’s and Youth Law Centre identifying approximately 250 cases over the past two years.
“In Australia, reports of child and forced marriage have not been limited to any specific cultural, religious or ethnic group,” the report stated.
“Reported cases point to a pattern of Australian residents being taken overseas for marriage … and asylum seekers asking for protection in Australia on the basis of fear of
harm in the form of child or forced marriage. God please help your children ooo!

Girls Worldwide are Living in Fear of abuse

Man admits child sex abuse in
Sydney court after ‘marrying’ 12-
year-old girl.

A man accused of “marrying” and having a sexual relationship with a 12-year-old girl has pleaded guilty to
ongoing child sex abuse.
The 27-year-old Lebanese student, who cannot be named, pleaded guilty in Burwood local court on Thursday to one count of persistent sexual abuse of a child, which carries a 25-year maximum jail sentence.

The charge takes in 25 counts of sexual intercourse with a
child between 10 and 14, with which the man was originally charged.
He has been ordered not to contact his victim for two years, and a date for sentencing will be decided next week.
Police allege the man married the Hunter valley girl in an Islamic ceremony in January. His “bride” has since turned 13.
The girl’s father will face trial next year.
The man has had his student visa cancelled and is now living in an immigration detention centre.

SEN. CHRIS ANYANWU And The ‘OFFICE OF THE GOVERNOR’…..What Women bring to Leadership and Governance.

The lack of Women in governance is becoming more than a symbolic concern. And by that I mean; the lack of women in governance and leadership positions, especially in the capacity of serving as state governors in Nigeria and some other countries of the world. And this has made me to ask if governance is becoming a ‘Dance Of Power’. Is leadership an Act or Science?
The question has long been subject to debate. Which side you are in probably determines whether or not you believe leadership can be taught or acquired. But developing leaders like Sen. Chris Anyanwu who can respond to the challenges of today’s 24/7 business environment and governance issues it becomes an act of responsibilities bestowed by the scientific nature of leadership.

Nonetheless, It is clear that women are reshaping the landscape of the business of governance all over the world. Women are naturally wired to think, act, and innovate. Women more than men in governance have the ability to see what others don’t, do what others won’t and keep pushing their ideas and ideals even when prudence says quit.

These skills taken together mean that women are better than men at earning serendipity! Here’s the breakdown:

1. Women are Opportunity Experts
Women see opportunity in everything and everyone – their neighbors, friends, family, business associates, strategic partners, etc. Women have the ability to see opportunity and
give their ideas life and inspire others to do the same. Women, when given the opportunity to be themselves, are
natural leaders! I have seen time and again how women are much more
strategic, focused and keep their eye on the prize. They are not easily distracted and don’t get their egos in the way. That is why women just don’t see opportunity, they seize it. Look
at the list of the top women CEO’s world-wide. Impressive!

It is time we start paying attention to these women; women like Chris Anyanwu because they are reinventing the world’s economy and political landscape

2. Women are Networking Professionals Women are masters of navigation and putting their ideas to
the test is their gift. They do this through networking. They follow-up and make sure they sow their seeds of ideas in the most fertile networking ground. Additionally, their inherent
ability to be creative allows for the discovery of opportunities that most miss. The ROI of your business network is only valuable if those in it are willing to risk in your growth. These women unlike men, understand the business of governance and economic statistics more than men. Women stick together and protect one another (though many would equally say that women also fiercely compete against each
other too). At the initial stages of networking, women are
gracious and generous in their ability to give and open doors for one another. They want to feel as if they are making an impact, helping to make a difference in the lives of others.

3. Women Seek to be Relationship Specialists Women are specialists at cultivating relationships that are
purposeful, genuine and meaningful. They focus on growing healthy, long-lasting relationships. Women don’t quit. They thrive at creating and sustaining momentum for both
themselves and others.
Women are masters at facilitating connection points between
people, resources and relationships. This is why women are
such effective and efficient leaders. They don’t waste time and can quickly identify areas to consolidate, organize and strengthen business outcomes. In fact, some of the best project managers I know are women. Their attention to detail is uncanny and their ability to track, evaluate and manage
change is impressive. They aim to assure the betterment of a healthier whole.

4. Women are Natural Givers
Women seek to give to others but also to their communities. Why do you think most non-profits are run by women?
Women enjoy living their lives through a cause that serves the advancement and acceleration of societal needs. This is why in the workplace women are great at inspiring and lifting
those around them. This is why most women leaders are such
excellent long-term strategic thinkers. They are less inclined to rally behind a short-term strategy if a more sustainable approach can be executed.
Additionally, women are socially conscious leaders that serve
to cultivate innovation and initiative for both themselves and others. No wonder the fastest growing sector of small business owners in the world are women.
In the end, women are more naturally inclined. They are wired to survive and thrive in fast- changing times like these and can lead fast changing organizations that desire sustainable growth.

My fellow Imolites and Nigerians, if we allow these women to replicate these qualities as State governors in our State government houses, then the sky will be our stepping stone. Our roads will be better. Our educational policies, health policies, social welfare policies, housing policies, transportation policies, environmental policies, etc, will be far more better than what it is now. I am not saying that the men folks are not doing it. They have tried for years, yet not finding the solution and we have a better option. The days for the Dance of Power are over. Let’s embrace the 21st century women in leadership for solution mantra and we will be out of this mess.

Sarah Paulin has done it in Alaska, Martha Layne Collins has done it in Kentucky. Beverly Perdue did it in North Carolina. Maria Dalva de Sousa of Brazil did it in the Distrito Federal’. Sheila Diskshit has done it in India. Griseida Alvarez Ponce de leon did it in the State of Colina in Mexico. And…….

Our dear Sen. Chris N.D Anyanwu has done it, is doing it in Imo State and Can do more…Yes She Can!

Your vote and support will count come 2015. Vote wisely. Sen. Chris N.D Anyanwu is Imo’s Hope 2015 for Governor. This campaign is brought to you by:(AYFGLC) African Youth for Good Leadership Campaign. Its time you make a change.

DREAMS OF OUR FOUNDING FATHERS:Nigeria @54; How did we miss it.

On Saturday, October 1, 1960, Nigeria became an independent nation. What follows is Sir Abubakar Tafawa Balewa’s speech delivered at Tafawa Balewa Square in Lagos at the Independence

(Please read and share your thoughts with me about the dreams of our founding fathers).

“Today is Independence Day. The first of October 1960 is a date to which for two years every Nigerian has been eagerly looking forward. At last, our great day has arrived, and Nigeria is now indeed an independent sovereign nation.
Words cannot adequately express my joy and pride at being the Nigerian citizen privileged to accept from Her Royal Highness these Constitutional Instruments which are the symbols
of Nigeria’s Independence. It is a unique privilege which I shall remember for ever, and it gives me
strength and courage as I dedicate my life to the service of our country.
This is a wonderful day, and it is all the more wonderful because we have awaited it with increasing impatience, compelled to watch one country after another overtaking us on the road
when we had so nearly reached our goal.
But now we have acquired our rightful status, and I feel sure that history will show that the building of our
nation proceeded at the wisest pace: it has been thorough, and Nigeria now stands well- built upon firm foundations. Today’s ceremony marks the culmination of a process which began fifteen years ago and has
now reached a happy and successful conclusion.

It is with justifiable pride that we claim the achievement of our Independence to be unparalleled in the annals of history. Each step of our constitutional advance has been purposefully
and peacefully planned with full and open consultation, not only between representatives of all the various interests in Nigeria but in
harmonious cooperation with the administering power which has today relinquished its authority.
At the time when our constitutional development entered upon its final phase, the emphasis was
largely upon self-government. We, the elected representatives of the people of Nigeria, concentrated on proving that we were fully capable of managing our own affairs both internally and as a nation. However, we were not to be allowed the selfish luxury of focusing our interest on our own homes. In these days of rapid communications we cannot live in isolation, apart from the rest of the world, even if we
wished to do so. All too soon it has become evident that for us Independence implies a great
deal more than self-government.

This great country, which has now emerged without bitterness or bloodshed, finds that she
must at once be ready to deal with grave international issues.
This fact has of recent months been unhappily emphasized by the startling events which have occurred in this continent. I shall not labour the
point but it would be unrealistic not to draw attention first to the awe-inspiring task confronting us at the very start of our nationhood.

When this day in October 1960 was chosen for our Independence it seemed that we were destined to move with quiet dignity to place on
the world stage. Recent events have changed the scene beyond recognition, so that we find
ourselves today being tested to the utmost.
We are called upon immediately to show that our claims to responsible government are well- founded, and having been accepted as an
independent state, we must at once play an active part in maintaining the peace of the world and in preserving civilisation. I promise you, we
shall not fail for want of determination.
And we come to this task better-equipped than many. For this, I pay tribute to the manner in
which successive British Governments have gradually transferred the burden of responsibility to our shoulders. The assistance and unfailing encouragement which we have received from each Secretary of State for the Colonies and their
intense personal interest in our development has immeasurably lightened that burden.

All our friends in the Colonial Office must today be proud of their handiwork and in the knowledge that they have helped to lay the
foundations of a lasting friendship between our two nations. I have indeed every confidence that,
based on the happy experience of a successful partnership, our future relations with the United Kingdom will be more cordial than ever, bound
together, as we shall be in the Commonwealth, by a common allegiance to Her Majesty Queen
Elizabeth, whom today we proudly acclaim as Queen of Nigeria and Head of the Commonwealth.
Time will not permit the individual mention of all those friends, many of them Nigerians, whose
selfless labours have contributed to our
Independence. Some have not lived to see the fulfilment of their hopes—on them be peace— but nevertheless they are remembered here, and the names of buildings and streets and roads and
bridges throughout the country recall to our minds their achievements, some of them on a national scale. Others confined, perhaps, to a small area in one Division, are more humble but
of equal value in the sum-total.

Today, we have with us representatives of those who have made Nigeria: Representatives of the Regional Governments, of former Central
Governments, of the Missionary Societies, and of the Banking and Commercial enterprises, and
members, both past and present, of the Public Service. We welcome you, and we rejoice that you have been able to come and share in our celebrations.
We wish that it could have been possible for all of those whom you represent to be here today:
Many, I know, will be disappointed to be absent, but if they are listening to me now, I say to them:
‘Thank you on behalf of my. Thank you for your devoted service which helped build up Nigeria into a nation. Today we are reaping the harvest which you sowed, and the quality of the harvest is
equalled only by our gratitude to you. May God bless you all.

This is an occasion when our hearts are filled with conflicting emotions: we are, indeed, proud to have achieved our independence, and proud that
our efforts should have contributed to this happy event. But do not mistake our pride for arrogance. It is tempered by feelings of sincere gratitude to all who have shared in the task of
developing Nigeria politically, socially and economically.
We are grateful to the British officers whom we have known, first as masters, and then as leaders, and finally as partners, but always as friends.
And there have been countless missionaries who have laboured unceasingly in the cause of
education and to whom we owe many of our medical services.
We are grateful also to those who have brought modern methods of banking and of commerce, and new industries. I wish to pay tribute to all of these people and to declare our everlasting
admiration of their devotion to duty.
And, finally, I must express our gratitude to Her Royal Highness the Princess Alexandra of Kent for
personally bringing to us these symbols of our freedom, and especially for delivering the gracious message from Her Majesty The Queen.
And so, with the words ‘God Save Our Queen’, I open a new chapter in the history of Nigeria, and of the Commonwealth, and indeed of the world.”

Sources: Sir Abubakar Tafawa Balewa, Mr. Prime Minister: A Selection of Speeches Made by Alhaji the Right
Honourable Sir Abubakar Tafawa Balewa, K.B.E.,
M.P., Prime Minister of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (Apapa: Nigerian National Press, Ltd., 1964).
Dreams of our founding fathers (Independence Day Speech by Tafawa Balewa, October 1, 1960)