Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:4 NKJV
I believe we can all agree that marriage takes a lot of our time, a lot of work and a great deal of sacrifice. But how many of us are willing to do the necessary things to keep our marriage healthy? It’s amazing how we can go the extra
mile during our dating season. Ladies, we make sure we are always “dolled up” when he’s around. We go the distance to look our very best for him, nothing out of place.
Gentlemen, you go over and beyond to
romance her with flowers, dinner, dates, gifts, vacations, etc. But after “I Do”a lazy spirit kicks in. What happen? Are we no longer interested in doing the things that will keep our marriages fresh, exciting and spicy?
Sacrifice means to “give up” and marriage will require you to “give up” something often. The Word of God reminds us in Philippians 2:4, in a
paraphrase not to be selfish. You cannot be selfish and make a sacrifice at the same time. You have to choose one or the other. Which one will benefit your marriage the most, being
selfish or making sacrifices?
Our marriage suffered a lot because sacrifices were not being made. I was often neglected because my husband would not spend time with me. That was a major issue in our marriage. His family and friends always came
before me. When I didn’t feel loved by him, my response was to withhold the one thing I know he enjoyed, needed and wanted…sex. Were we both wrong? Yes! Neither one of our needs
were being met and this was a never ending cycle in our home. I was screaming for his attention and he was screaming for love- making. Funny thing is we used to do things together often while dating but we struggled
heavily during marriage. Now, we have an understanding that every other weekend we will commit to spending time together. What changed? Our marriage went through the
turmoil of infidelity and then a light bulb finally came on. The grass really isn’t greener on the other side. You honestly have to take and make time to keep your own lawn nurtured. That’s it! If you can find time to commit adultery, you can most certainly use
that same time to date your spouse and avoid the high cost that adultery brings to the marriage and home.
My husband works from 3pm to 1am, 5 days a week. He is on his feet literally the entire 10 hour shift; warehouse work. When he comes home, I commit to making home as peaceful as possible and also making sure his needs are met. When he arrives home, his bath water is ready and his dinner is warmed. So mornings (2am) he wants to talk. As his wife, I have to
give him that time. We all know most men do not like to talk so when the opportunity presents itself, we must make ourselves available. These are just some of the things I failed to do earlier in our marriage, not because I couldn’t but because for me sleep
was more important. I want to be that wise woman that Proverbs 14:1 speaks of, “A wise woman strengthens her family, but a foolish woman destroys hers by what she does.” (NCV)
Hebrews 13:16 (NLT) tells us, “And don’t forget to do good and to share with those in need.
These are the sacrifices that please God.” Ministry starts at home. How can we serve others in our community, in our churches, on our jobs with excellence yet our very home is
being neglected? We must make time for those who are closest to us and God has so graciously blessed us with. God gifted us with family. What better way to say thank you to Him by treating those gifts like we appreciate
Marriage was never promised to be easy. But every sacrifice made is definitely worth it. Your marriage will only work if you put in the work. Without God, His Word, prayer,
commitment, sacrifice, unconditional love, intimacy (more than just sex), just to name a few, there is no way to keep our marriages successful & healthy.